I don’t think it’s best to wait 12 weeks. “If I’d announced it early, I would have felt much more supported and far less alone. “The whole thing was really isolating,” she says. Keeping her pregnancy secret ultimately took a toll on Arianna’s mental health. “My mum was like, ‘Don’t tell anyone! ANYONE!’ As if that would jinx it.” “I think it was this bizarre societal pressure … you almost have to justify why you’d announce a pregnancy early because it’s not ‘how it’s done,’” she says, adding that she was worried people would think of her as “foolish” if she shared her pregnancy news earlier than usual. But still, something stopped her from going against “the norm.” If she’d had a miscarriage, she would have opened up about that too. While running Pachamama, Arianna had been sharing the details of her fertility journey on Instagram for some time. While Arianna was aware of the medical argument for sharing pregnancy news at 12 weeks, the reason she waited was less rational. “Those milestones take about 8 weeks to reach, and then the period between 8 to 12 weeks is just about making sure they are continuing,” she says. Then comes the fetal pole (the first direct image you can see of a fetus), fetal number (whether it’s a single or multiple pregnancy), and then the fetal cardiac motion (what will go on to be the baby’s heartbeat).
First, there’s the development of the yolk sac, which provides the embryo with nourishment before the placenta is formed. “To determine if a pregnancy is viable, we look for certain milestones,” Dr. It typically takes place between weeks 10 and 14. Your first ultrasound scan aims to confirm your pregnancy and may also be part of a screening test for Down’s syndrome. It’s estimated that about 1 in 8 pregnancies will end in miscarriage, and more than 80% occur within the first trimester. This is because the greatest chance of miscarriage during pregnancy is in those first 12 weeks. “It’s more a recommendation from medical providers that by 12 weeks, if everything is okay, then there is a good chance that the pregnancy will continue.” Nazaneen Homaifar, an obstetrician-gynecologist (OB-GYN) at Inova Health System, DC, USA. “The 12-week rule is not actually a rule,” says Dr. But to what extent is it fact or folklore? You’ve probably heard of the “12-week rule,” the universal benchmark for when it’s safe to announce a pregnancy. I couldn’t reveal my pregnancy before the 12-week mark.” If anyone’s going to understand, it’s that community, right? But for some reason, I just couldn’t do it. “I thought, I’m just going to tell everyone that I’m pregnant and I feel awful. “I felt like crap, but I put this insane amount of pressure on myself to keep going at my usual pace,” she says. The first trimester had been tough, as Arianna not only battled with chronic fatigue, nausea, and vomiting but also experienced antenatal (or prenatal) depression.Īrianna, who heads up Pachamama, an online support group for new and expecting mothers, often felt she didn’t want to get out of bed. It wasn’t excitement that made her determined to share the news, however she wanted to tell people why she wasn’t acting her usual self. Soon after her positive test, 35-year-old Arianna was eager to announce her pregnancy.
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